Posted August 2, 2000
Expand Beyond Your Comfort Zone
Have you ever felt yourself being pulled in two different directions? Many years ago, I really wanted to move to Sedona. But when the time came to pack, I was reluctant to leave Houston, where I'd grown up. Even though I didn't like my old home, it was a familiar place. I knew where things were, and what the environment was like. Sedona would be a complete change, from city to small town, from suburbs to the country. It was a change I desperately desired, but still it was scary.
Take a look at your life. Is it everything you want it to be? Are you as happy as you'd like? Do you have the prosperity you want, the relationships, the health? If you're not experiencing all that you want in life, then you're keeping yourself from it. Infinite Life wants to give you all the good you can hold. If you're not constantly accepting more good in your life, you've settled into a rut. This is called a comfort zone. Everyone does this, in some way or other.
I've heard of prisoners who are freed, who have waited years to be released. But once they have their freedom, they can't handle it. They've spent so many years having someone telling them when to eat, when to sleep, when to exercise, that they can't function without anyone telling them what to do. Therefore, some former prisoners deliberately commit another crime simply to be caught and put back in prison. They have been forced out of their comfort zone, and want back in.
Most of us don't have quite this extreme situation. But have you ever had an opportunity that you turned down out of fear? Some people will work hard to succeed, and just as it's about to happen, they will sabotage it. They'll forget a vital appointment, they'll get sick, they'll begin to drink, or insult the boss. Their comfort zone may not be comfortable, but it is familiar.
What is it that causes people to remain in their comfort zone? Many people have a fear of the unknown. When faced with a new situation, they don't know if they can handle it, doubting their abilities. Just like I felt about my move.
A person may have a fear of responsibility. I know of people that have done menial jobs all of their lives, and turned down managerial duties because they didn't want the additional authority.
Even remaining at the same income level can be a way of staying in your comfort zone. Or not being able to exceed a certain amount in your savings account. Accepting only so much good in any one area is a way of keeping yourself in a situation that you're familiar with. By doing so, you don't have to handle the anxiety of any uncertainties. You're on well-known terrain, and know all the hills and valleys.
What it comes down to is that most people don't feel worthy of experiencing more of what Infinite Life offers. A woman will put up with a verbally abusive spouse, because she's been convinced that she deserves his attacks. Or a man will suffer with a raging boss, because he doesn't believe he can find a better job. (These are gender interchangeable.) A person may want to be healthier, but doesn't take the action necessary to do so, such as stopping smoking, exercising, and eating properly. Whenever there can be something done for change, and nothing is done, it's due to a lack of self-esteem. A person doesn't think enough of themselves to leave the marriage, change jobs, stand up for themselves, or take care of themselves.
So how can you tell if you're keeping yourself in a comfort zone? Is there anything that you are unhappy with? Do you want more in some area of your life? Notice what thoughts go through your mind about that area. Be aware of the feelings that arise when you consider a change. Does fear surface? Fear of what? Remember, all that you desire is already yours. You're the only person that's keeping yourself in your comfort zone.
By becoming aware of what you're thinking and feeling, you can begin to dissolve the limitations that have kept you there. Life wants to give you more. And all of Life is supporting you in your expansion.
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