Posted November 2011
Make a Mistake? Belief in Self
'Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.'
Do You Believe You Can Learn From Your Mistakes?
Mistakes happen. It's what happens after you make a mistake that's interesting.
When you make a mistake, which path do you choose? Do you move forward to problem solve and figure out how to correct your error--and ultimately bounce back from making the error? Or do you feel stupid, inept and give up?
Whether You Believe You Can Grow Smarter or Not Determines How You React to Mistakes
It turns out whether you believe you can grow smarter or not determines how you'll respond to making mistakes--whether you'll take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes or just give up.
According to a recent study looking at brain activity in response to making mistakes, people who believe they can learn from their mistakes have brains that pay more attention to mistakes--and they share a belief that intelligence isn't fixed--it can be shaped (i.e. we can learn from our mistakes).
If you believe intelligence can be shaped you may think 'I learn from my mistakes', 'happy mistakes', or 'a mistake is just a learning experience'. But if you believe you either have the smarts or you don't (you have a fixed intelligence) you fail to take actions to learn from your mistakes and just give up.
'Acting as if ' is Key to Overcome Beliefs Keeping You from Learning from Mistakes
Okay, so now you know. You hold the key to bouncing back from making mistakes in your head--If you believe you can grow smarter you can make happy mistakes and learn from them. But what if you're one of the people who simply believe you're not smart? Then you 'act as if'--and step over the invisible belief barrier to taking action.
When you make a mistake or error-- don't think, act as if.
act as if:
* You can learn from your mistakes and grow smarter.
* You have confidence in yourself.
* You can correct your mistakes.
* It matters that you know the correct answer to perform better in the future.
* You are coachable.
Beliefs Follow Actions
Why does 'acting as if ' work? Research shows if you want to change a belief, take action. When you experience a discrepancy between what you believe and how you act, you'll change your beliefs to follow your actions. Acting as if you can grow smarter will result in you believing you can --and improve your ability to learn from your mistakes.
We all want to be the best we can be and therefore hate making mistakes and looking stupid. But our brains are wired to make mistakes so errors are going to happen. When you make a mistake, stop thinking and step into problem solving instead. Get the most out of your life--show yourself you're someone who learns from you mistakes.
'There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.'
Copyright © 2011 Susan J Meyerott
International speaker and award-winning author, Susan J Meyerott provides dynamic interactive workshops for people ready to better manage their work, life and health. For more than 30 years, Susan has been helping people lighten up and step over invisible barriers to change one step at a time. She speaks to your heart, puts you at ease, and makes changing easier than ever before.
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