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Cedarfire Newsletter Volume 10, Issue 21
"When Self-Image Sabotages Positive Thinking" Positive thinking, which powers the Law of Attraction, always works, as long as there isn't anything that conflicts with it. Some of those sabotaging issues are ones you know about, such as focusing on what you don't have (instead of what you want), verbally negating the positive, and old programming conflicts. But one of the main reasons it doesn't fulfill expectations is due to having a self-image that contradicts your positive focus. Self-image is a combination of self-worth, self-esteem and self-acceptance. If your self-image doesn't agree with your conscious affirmative thinking, then your subconscious won't allow it to manifest. Your subconscious makes sure that what you attract into your life is consistent with what you believe about yourself. If you try to change the outer experience before changing the inner attitudes, your subconscious will short-circuit your positive thinking efforts. Here are three of the ways a negative self-image can undermine your constructive thinking: 1. Guilt. There are a couple of ways this can express in your life. Both tie up energy and focus. The first way guilt can affect you is if you're acting or thinking in a way that violates your values. For instance, if you consider yourself to be diligently honest, but you cheat on your taxes, this could set up a niggling feeling of guilt. You've ignored your values, and your subconscious knows that. So you unconsciously punish yourself by not getting that raise you want. The solution for this is to find where you're going against your values and change it. The other way is outdated feelings of guilt that aren't valid anymore. You could still be feeling bad for stepping on your classmate's hand in kindergarten. If something happened a long time ago, and you've learned the lesson from it, then this type of guilt no longer serves you. It has fulfilled its purpose. Stop punishing yourself by forgiving yourself and move on. 2. Standards and values. You may have standards and values that conflict with what you're affirming. For instance, you consider yourself to be honest and generous, and believe the rich to be selfish and corrupt. If you want to be wealthy, that would mean that you'd have to become selfish and corrupt, which would be inconsistent with your values. Your subconscious won't allow that kind of incongruity. You could also have old standards that prevent your achieving more. For instance, you want to earn more money, but you feel you shouldn't make more money than your father or your husband. Not only would this be putting an unrealistic limit on your goal, it could prevent you from achieving it at all. Assess your standards and decide if they're appropriate for you and and your goals. Some of those values are holdovers from past generations and need to be adjusted. 3. False beliefs about yourself. Do you believe that you're unworthy, undeserving, or unlovable? That's a false belief. Evaluate anywhere you feel bad about yourself, and track it back to where it began. Usually the feeling got rooted in childhood, and was never challenged. Challenge it now. Consider where you've been successful, complimented, or appreciated. Those times could be more recent and more objective than the original events. Instead of focusing on the past lies that tear you down, fill your mind with all the constructive opinions that build you up. Stand up to your own self-criticism and let your power unfold. Although a negative self-image can short-circuit positive thinking, the good news is that your self-image can be changed. Affirmation, visualization, and action in a constructive direction will reap great rewards. When your self-image is consistent with your positive thinking, you'll get the results you want. Copyright © 2010 Linda Ann Stewart A nationally known speaker, life coach, hypnotherapist, and author, Linda-Ann Stewart empowers people to discover new possibilities and realize their full potential. For a copy of her free ebook, "Secrets To The Law Of Attraction," visit Cedarfire.com/SecretsToLOA.shtml. I went to a meeting, and a woman asserted that the subconscious didn't work for everyone. I was stunned, not able to believe that someone actually believed that. If you believe in the subconscious, then it either works or it doesn't. In response, I wrote a short opinion essay, "The Subconscious Works, Whether Or Not You Get The Results You Want."
"The Secret Of The Ages" One of the best explanations of the conscious, subconscious, and superconscious minds that I've read is in this book. It gives a clear and concise description of the method to create what you want in your life. By giving directions of how to decide on what you want, and the role that your desire for change plays in creating it. The author explains that you are one with the Infinite, and have already been given all you could want. "The Secret of the Ages" was written before "Think and Grow Rich," and inspired "The Secret." This book made a huge impact on my life, helping me deepen my understanding of my relationship to my mind and the Universe. As a motivational book to keep your thoughts positive, knowing that what you want is already yours, this book is without equal. I've discovered that there are several abridged versions of this book being sold by various publishers. The one I'm reviewing and recommend is the complete, original and official one sold by the author's publishing company. To order this book, click on the image of the book on the left. For past issues of the newsletter, visit Free Archives Library. Subscribe/Unsubscribe Information
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