Whatever you wish for someone else, you're also wishing for yourself, whether it's positive or negative. A friend of mine would unconsciously hurt himself whenever he got angry. He'd accidentally slam his hand in a drawer, kick the desk, or fall over the trash can. His anger, a strong emotion, connected with the image of retribution he wanted for the person who'd harmed him. This deeply impressed his subconscious, which didn't recognize that the picture was for someone else.

All the subconscious knows is that there's a lot of energy attached to an idea, and it performs its role to fulfill the mold you give it. If you dwell on the desire for revenge, and you think about it frequently, the subconscious will figure that's what you want for yourself. It will make sure you get what it thinks you want. This same principle is true if you're jealous or envious of someone and hope they fail.

If you have a fleeting desire for payback, but dismiss it fairly quickly and move on with your life, the subconscious won't act on it. It's only when a person consistently and constantly wishes for vengeance that the subconscious takes notice.

The subconscious uses whatever you're focused on for its model. When your predominant thinking is concentrated on retribution, the subconscious thinks you want the condition you're intent on in your own life. This is the underlying reason why forgiveness is emphasized so much in various spiritual systems.

Forgiveness releases the hostility and bitterness that you have towards a person. That energy can then be directed into a more beneficial purpose. But even more basic than that, your subconscious is given a more constructive image to work with and fulfill. When you want the best for someone, you know that you've forgiven them. This doesn't mean that you give them permission to hurt you again. You forgive the person, not the offense.

You can be angry at what someone has done, or be in conflict with them, but still have a feeling of goodwill towards them. If compassion isn't possible, then maybe you can simply remind yourself that the offender will experience what they need to eventually learn their lesson. It's not your job to be the instrument of justice the Universe.

Answer: You'd have to determine what you feel is lacking in your self-worth. Suggestions such as: "I am worthy of all the good there is," "I deserve the best," "I feel confident and self-assured," "I accept my true worth" would be a good place to start. Some of my clients say that they "don't feel like I'm enough." I give them suggestions that "You are enough, good enough, worthy enough." Since the self-esteem issue is individual, you'd know best what kind of ideas you need to emphasize. A suggestion, by Emile Coue, a pioneer in mental programming, is a good, general one. "Every day, in every way, I'm really getting better and better."

This book is a goldmine of scripts for making your own tapes. You can simply read from the book and make a tape to explore a past life, future life, contact your Superconscious mind and more. If you are interested in tapping into the power of your mind, this book is a must for your library.