Happy New Year to all! Here's knowing that this next year
brings a bounty of all good things to everyone.
The beginning of the year usually brings a re-assessment of
where you want to go, and what you want in your life. Many
people write out resolutions of what they want to change.
If you do this, I'd suggest that you focus on putting one
resolution at a time into practice. This will improve your
chances of success at keeping your resolutions. Visualize
the statement as if it were a fact, and ask your Higher
Self for any guidance or direction as to what you need to
do or change within yourself to help to manifest it.
*** Feature Article ***
* There Are No Mistakes * by Linda-Ann Stewart
Have you ever made a choice that you regretted? I
have. I spent years berating myself for getting involved
with a disastrous relationship. Even though I learned
valuable lessons from the experience, I continued to
consider my original choice a mistake.
Only years later was I able to take some of the advice I
give to my clients, "There are no mistakes, just learning
experiences." Many people come to me with
perfectionist expectations of themselves. If they
actually make a mistake, such as choosing a path that
didn't turn out the way they wanted, they continue to
criticize themselves for the rest of their lives.
Something as simple as saying the wrong thing turns
into a huge mountain of regret.
I remind them that it's simply a choice that they made at
the time, with the information they had available. We're
here to experience, and to learn what works and what
doesn't. Edison experimented with over a hundred
filaments before he discovered the one that would work
in the light bulb. A baseball player is considered to be
the best of the league if he hits the ball one-third of the
time. Can we expect more of ourselves than that? Life
is an experiment.
A mistake is simply that, a "mis-take." We tried
something and it didn't work as we had expected. It's
like the repetitive takes when shooting a scene for a
movie. Hopefully, we learn from our experience and do
better the next time. Entrepreneurs, on average, fail
three times before they are successful. Each time, they
find something new that helps them succeed a little bit
more the next time.
Continuing to berate yourself over a difficult choice is a
waste of spiritual energy. God doesn't care that you've
made a boo-boo. The Universe knows that you'll get it
eventually. Learn and move on. I am finally coming to
the place where I can forgive myself for getting
involved in that devastating relationship, and you
should also be willing to forgive yourself for your
mis-takes.
*** Affirmation ***
Since God forgives me for my errors, I now forgive
myself for any so-called mistakes that I've made. I
recognize they were just learning experiences, and I
now let go of any self-criticism and move on. Anything
that I might need to learn from the experience I now
integrate into every level of mind. It now becomes
simply a resource and a lesson learned.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: What's the difference between an affirmation and
a hypnotic suggestion?
Answer: Affirmations and suggestions are essentially the
same thing. Only the terminology is different. Both
suggestions and affirmations are statements that are
designed to change old mental ideas in your subconscious
mind. Generally, affirmations are used while you are awake
and alert, and during other activities. But they can also
be used in meditation to help to elevate your
consciousness. In that case, they then become a
suggestion. A suggestion is a statement designed to
change a belief, attitude, habit, or effect a change
on the body. Both re-program your mind to release old
thought patterns and condition it with the new ones that
you choose.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* Spiritual Self-Hypnosis Audiotapes and CD's *
For several months, I've been working on creating Spiritual
Self-Hypnosis audiotapes and CD's. I now have two titles now
available, "Spiritual Self-Esteem," and "Identify With
Abundance," with "Divine Health" coming soon. I wanted to
create these with the spiritual perspective of my site,
that you have all the Power within you to heal. The
induction of the self-hypnosis is a cleansing imagery that
I've used for over a decade, and is very powerful by
itself. To read more about them, go to
Spiritual Self-Hypnosis Audiotapes and CDs.
* New Articles *
Most of us write resolutions each January, but what about
the unconscious resolutions we've created for ourselves?
Discover what those rules are, where they came from, and
how they've affected you. By becoming aware of the outdated
laws you live your life by, you can empower yourself to
rewrite them to be more positive. Read Rewrite Your Unconscious Resolutions.
The second article this month is by guest writer, Asoka
Selvarajah, Ph.D. This compelling, controversial article
describes the conflict between Word and Image - between
left-brain and right-brain functioning. In particular, it
analyzes the effect that left-brain dominance has had upon
civilization, with particular emphasis upon the rights of
women throughout the ages.
Read In Search Of The Feminine Archetype.
*** Recommended Reading ***
The Abundance Book
by John Randolph Price
This little book is worth its weight in gold. I've used mine
so much that it's fallen apart, and I keep it in a ziplock
bag. Quoting from various teachers and books about
prosperity, it condenses all the wisdom about and abundance
into this tiny volume. The author writes about the profound
idea that you are your own money, and that it's your energy
that circulates. He includes some prosperity "secrets" to
help manifest quicker and easier.
Included in this book is a 40 day prosperity plan, which
are 10 affirmations you meditate on. Taking one of these
affirmations each day, you circulate through them 4 times.
By the end of the 40 days, you'll have begun to change your
consciousness about money, prosperity and abundance. This
book will change your perspective on money and yourself.
Whenever I get into fear about finances, I pull this book
out and read it again.
This month has been a time of change, delay and trouble with
communications. On February 5, my ISP went down. They
couldn't connect to their phone company. Which means I
couldn't connect. Great fun, especially when I had things
I had to do on the internet. I've also had other delays
this month. I've been trying to keep it all in perspective,
knowing that the delays were working for my Highest Good
somehow.
It's been a mild winter here in the mountains and canyons
of northern Arizona. On the one hand, it's not a good
thing, because our snow resort can't open without snow
(yes, we get snow here) and we don't get the moisture we
need. On the other hand, it makes it much nicer to travel
around and not worry about sliding off the road.
*** Feature Article ***
* Action Prepares The Way For Manifestation *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Have you selected your specific desire, done your
mental work and affirming, let go of the concern that
it'll manifest, but it still hasn't shown up? It may be
time for you to do some grounding of your desire.
What physical action have you taken in the direction
of your desire? Sometimes, a person has to jumpstart
things in the material realm to get the spiritual and
mental one moving.
For instance, say you want a particular car. Test-drive
one to get the feel of it. If you are out of work, take a
job, any job, to get some supply coming into your
coffers. Suppose you want to release excess weight.
Start walking. To improve your health, make plans of
what you want to do in the future, and make some
sort of commitment to do them. Catherine Ponder
wrote of a woman who wanted a new house. The
woman put a hammer and nails on her kitchen table
so that she saw them all the time.
It's been said that "God can't steer a parked vehicle."
As long as you're moving, in any direction, you can
be guided. Many times, I've made the mistake of
waiting for guidance before I chose a path. I had to
wait a long time. Whereas, when I would choose a
course, even if it was a wrong one, things began to
flow to me.
Taking action in the physical world begins to
convince your subconscious that you really want your
desire. Even writing down what you want and reading
it three times a day will impress the subconscious.
Doing this shows a sense of dedication to improving
your life. The more action you're willing to take, the
faster your desire will manifest. This is because the
physical world is an extension of the mental/spiritual
world. So once you've done all your mental and
spiritual work, it's time to make some movement in
the material world in the direction of your goal.
*** Affirmation ***
After I choose what I desire and do my mental and
spiritual work, I decide on what action to take to
ground my desire in the physical world. By doing so,
I convince my subconscious how much that I want
my goal. As I take some action, I am Divinely guided
in the right direction. Opportunities, contacts,
information or whatever I need falls into my path.
Divine Energy flows through my activity in a perfect
way.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: When I begin using an affirmation, I feel positive
and optimistic. But after a few days, I begin to feel
discouraged and just want to give up. Why do I feel like
this, and what should I do about it when it happens?
Answer: When you begin affirming, it's natural to feel
enthusiastic and full of faith. But when the manifestation
doesn't appear immediately, doubts begin to arise. There
are a couple of reasons that you feel discouraged.
#1 is that it generally takes more than a day or so to
change your prevailing thought about the subject.
Remember, an affirmation is only changing your mind, not
the Mind of God. You've had an opinion or attitude about
the subject of the affirmation for awhile, and it has been
what has manifested. Now you're changing your mind, and it
takes a few days or weeks, or in some cases, months to
fully change it to accept the reality of the affirmation.
#2 is that the old attitude may be fighting with the new
choice. That's why you feel like you want to run away.
The affirmation is beginning to stir up old ideas and
issues related to the subject, and it can become
uncomfortable as they have to be released. The protective
instinct of those attitudes then is to make you
discouraged and hopefully give up, so it doesn't have to
change.
The solution? Keep on with the affirmation. If necessary,
change it to include resolving old issues having to do
with the subject of the affirmation.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Thought Marketing Group *
For those of you who are using metaphysical and New
Thought techniques in your business, sales or marketing,
there's a free non-commercial discussion group available.
You can join at the site at
http://groups.yahoo.com/NTMarket or send a blank
e-mail to NTMarket-subscribe@yahoogroups.com
* New Title *
I've added the "Divine Health" title to my "Spiritual
Self-Hypnosis" audiotapes and CDs. Every cell in your
body has a Divine blueprint of health in it. Only your
thought patterns can block your perfect health from
expressing.
Go to Spiritual Self-Hypnosis Audiotapes and CDs for
more information.
* New Article *
Play is a very important part of learning and personal
development. If you don't play, your inner self rebels and
can cause havoc in your life. Therefore, learning to play
is necessary for harmony. Read Nourish Your Inner Self With Play
The second article this month,
Sweetness and Light: The
Romance of Beeswax Candles is by guest writer Lorraine Aho,
is in honor of Valentine's Day. There are few things more
comforting than the warm, golden glow of handmade beeswax
candles. The intimate light never fails to transform the
cold dark night into a special evening, whether it kindles
romance between two people or intensifies a personal
meditation.
*** Recommended Reading ***
Inner Work: Using Dreams and Active Imagination for Personal
Growth
by Robert A. Johnson
The author is a Jungian psychologist and writes about how
to use your personal images in dreams and active imagination
to break through old barriers. It's one of the few books
I've read that encourages a person to make their rituals or
activities to ground the insights that they've gained. And
it explains why that part is so necessary. Taking some
action acknowledges to the subconscious that the person
values the information.
This book has three sections. The first is an introduction
to the subconscious (which he calls the unconscious) and
its language. The second part is devoted to dreams and
dreamworking. This part gives some instructions on how to
interpret your own dreams, then what to integrate the dream
into your waking life. This is where the rituals come into
play. The third section addresses active imagination and
how to do this on your own. Since imagery is the language
of the subconscious, you allow the subconscious to dialogue
with you in its own language.
This is a wonderful book, and I wouldn't let my copy out
of my possession.
My boyfriend, Jeff, and I spent the first weekend of March
at the Arizona Renaissance Festival. We go every year in
costume. As usual, we had a wonderful time. Saturday was
windy and a bit on the nippy side (Arizona does get
chilly in the winter, even in Phoenix), but Sunday was
warmer with just a breeze. It was a nice escape from day to
day reality, especially since Jeff is being laid off this
month. He has some prospects, but nothing firm at this
time. So a visit to an idealized past, watching comedy,
throwing "pointy things," and just looking at the shops was
a lovely diversion and helped us to lift our spirits.
*** Feature Article ***
* The Dreaded Word "Discipline" *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Everyone hates the "D" word. Discipline. When I
mention the word to clients, they sometimes shudder
and give me a dirty look. I think it's because most
people associate the word "discipline" with
punishment, enforced obedience, submission to some
outside authority or hard work with little reward. But
the dictionary defines discipline as instruction, a
branch of research, or training that shapes or molds.
The root of the word discipline is "disciple" or "one
who receives instruction from another" or more
simply, "to learn." In this context, discipline takes on
a whole new flavor.
Without self-discipline, a person rarely achieves
anything in life, including spiritual growth. For
instance, meditating every day takes discipline. So
many things could distract a person from that
practice, from folding the laundry to watching that
half-hour comedy. It takes setting a strong intention
and following through, no matter what, to fulfill that
goal.
Imagine you're in a line at a buffet, and your favorite
food in the whole is at the end of the long table. (It's
not a perfect analogy, but play along, okay?) All the
foods that populate the table look succulent and
delicious, but you are holding out for your favorite,
because you know you only have enough room for
that particular morsel. So you discipline yourself to
pass up all the other foods, refuse to let them divert
you, and keep your eyes on your goal.
Self-discipline means that you are training yourself
into a mold that you heartily desire. No one else is
forcing you to take the path you've chosen. You
consciously make choices that benefit your end goal
and avoid things that might sidetrack you. By
choosing your goal and staying on purpose, you
become your own authority. Self-discipline actually
becomes a spiritual practice as you recognize that you
are your own best teacher. So transform the negative
associations you have with this word to what it really
means, and learn to use self-discipline to achieve
what you want from life.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
I recognize that self-discipline makes me a disciple of my
Highest Good. I make wise decisions that support my goals,
and choose to follow through with them. Disregarding any
distractions from my Good, I stay on my path. Since I am
my own authority, I am the one molding myself into what I
want. This is my choice, and I am enthusiastic about
self-discipline as a spiritual practice.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: How can one know that his affirmation has taken
root and what outward signs show that the seed is growing?
Answer: It's hard to know when the seed has begun to sprout.
When you forget about the concern, and have a solid faith
that it's being taken care of, you know that it's begun
to germinate. Sometimes, you'll get some mis-messages or
dead ends as the affirmation is beginning to manifest. It's
as if your creative mind is trying out different situations
as it works to manifest what you want.
Other times, it'll manifest all at once with no warning.
The main thing is not to dig up the seed to see if it's
sprouted. When you do this, you're not letting it
germinate, any more than if you dig up a seed to see if
it's sprouted when you're gardening. You have to have as
much faith that your word is taking root as you have that
a seed knows how to germinate and sprout in your garden.
As long as you release the concern, knowing that God
and your creative mind are working on the means, it
will come to you in Divine Time.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
Why is it that some beliefs that we have don't manifest
that way we expect? There may be an underlying doubt or
fear, and there may be a deeper conviction that denies it.
Read
The Conviction Of Your Beliefs.
Guest writer, Asoka Selvarajah, Ph.D., brings us our second
article this month. As creators, we manifest everything we
experience in life. By first working in the realm of Cause,
we manifest the results of our thoughts in the realm of
Effect - the everyday world we live in. However, not
everyone is aware that they are even doing it, and are
thus responsible for all they experience! Read Working In
the Subtle Realm Of Thought.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
Betrayal, Trust and Forgiveness
A Guide to Emotional Healing and Self-Renewal
by Beth Hedva, Ph.D.
Emotional darkness, the nightmare of betrayal... are
these fodder for the psyche? According to Dr. Hedva,
the stage is set for a sacred initiation, moving from
one cycle of personal evolution to the next. A strong,
heart-centered case is made for the radical
transformation that moving through the experience
of betrayal can trigger.
A shocking, yet spiritually empowering argument
is put forward, defining the stages of both pain and
growth that the process of granting forgiveness
engenders.
Many aspects of betrayal are addressed. All the
significant relationship dynamics are explored,
leaving no doubt that the author knows what she's
talking about. Also, the tender area of self-betrayal
is probed, but leaving us feeling that hope and
regeneration are indeed possible.
We are guided through the death of innocence to
the rebirth of vitality and full aliveness. Using the
exercises provided, one may find that a
compassionate spirit has laid a stable path for
us to follow.
At the beginning of February, a dear friend of mine had
surgery. There were complications, and he was without
oxygen for awhile. The next day, the doctors put him into a
coma to stop the seizures he was having. They said he had
brain damage and might never wake up. He's been proving
them wrong. Last week, he was finally moved to rehab.
He's saying single words, aware of his surroundings, and
following simple commands. He has a long road back, but
he's come a long way in a short time. It's been a difficult
couple of months, staying centered despite doctor's
predictions.
*** Feature Article ***
* What Is Your Motivation For Change? *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
When a client comes into my office wanting to make
a change, one of my jobs is to find out what's
motivating them. Is their motivation stronger than
their attachment to what they're currently
experiencing? For instance, I'll have smokers come to
me and say, "I really want to want to quit smoking."
(No, that wasn't a typo.) They haven't made the
commitment to quitting, even though they know they
need to. Until their determination is stronger than
their attachment to their present habit, nothing will
happen.
In the subconscious mind, the strongest idea wins.
When the desire to stop smoking is more powerful
than continuing, then the person will quit. This is true
for any change, whether it be weight management,
self-esteem, success, prosperity, relationship issues or
anything else. Only when the desire for the new
pattern becomes stronger than the attachment to the
old will change occur.
Many times, the old pattern will have more energy to
begin with because it's familiar. People tend to like to
hold onto what they're used to, because they don't
know what the change will bring with it. But as a
person contemplates the advantages of the new, feels
the excitement and enthusiasm about it, then the
subconscious will create the pathway for the new
pattern to manifest.
What change do you want to make in your life? Do
you want more prosperity, self-acceptance, success,
a better relationship, weight management, improved
health? Write down what you want. Ask yourself what
keeps you where you are and write that down. What
changes in behavior, attitude, or belief do you
need to make for your goal to succeed?
What is it that motivates you for your goal? If it's to
meet someone else's expectations or to impress
another, that won't be strong enough to convince the
subconscious. The reason for your goal has to be
deeply meaningful to you. And your motivation has to
be stronger than your desire to remain in your current
situation. You must be committed to do whatever is
necessary for the change. Once you've determined
your motivation, write it down and look at it several
times a day. From your list of what changes you need
to make, pick one per day to add to your behaviors.
Before long, you'll have accomplished your goal.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
I bring to mind what it is that I want. I know that the
Universe wants it for me. I discover what my
motivation is for the change I desire. As I
contemplate how my goal feels, I uncover other
reasons to accept it. I commit myself to do whatever I
need to do to accomplish my goal. I deserve it.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: Can I listen to a self-hypnosis audiotape in the
car while I'm driving?
Answer: My answer is an unequivocal, absolute "Please, no!"
Not even with headphones. Not even if you aren't driving.
Self-hypnosis audiotapes and CDs (whether mine or someone
else's) lead you to focus your attention inwardly, to the
extent that everything in your outer world fades away.
When you're driving, you need to be alert and aware. Even
if you fast forward past the beginning part of the tape,
the induction, the voice on the tape is going to be
soothing and gentle. That alone will lull you into a
relaxed, more inwardly directed state. Think of how it
feels when you're driving and listening to elevator
music or music that bores you.
Once upon a time, I told a client not to listen to her
tape while driving. I wasn't specific enough. At one
point, her son was driving her to an appointment in a
nearby city. She figured, "I'm not driving," so popped her
tape into the tape player in the car, and sat back to
listen to it. Soon, she became aware that the tires sounded
funny. She opened her eyes and discovered that her son had
succumbed to the relaxation on the tape and the car had
drifted into the emergency lane. So I'm much more specific
now when I warn people not to listen to their tapes in a
moving vehicle.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
Many people have difficulty feeling safe in their lives.
And the subconscious needs to feel safe for it to make any
changes. This article explores why a person may not change,
due to not feeling safe, and some ideas on how to create a
feeling of safety. Read Is It Safe To Change?.
The guest article this month is by Jeri Noble.
Procrastination is the act of putting off what needs to be
done. There are various reasons for doing this, but in every
case, it sends mixed signals to the Universe. When we have a
lack of commitment to our purpose, the Universe responds
accordingly. Read
Procrastination and Reality Creation.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
What Are You Hungry For?
Women, Food and Spirituality
By Lynn Ginsburg and Mary Taylor
How do we as women manage to separate who
we are from how we look? Culturally, we are
taught from childhood that our value is dependent
upon our appearance, that the closer to the current
definition of beauty we can come, the better a
person we are.
This belief has bent generations of women to
unhealthy eating practices and a sense of
spiritual emptiness.
In this book, you will find explanations and
exercises that promote a deeper sense of
spiritual fulfillment and a revised body-image
that is free of the negative delusions of
cultural conditioning. Drawing on the Eastern
traditions of yoga and meditation, we are
guided to a deeper understanding of the
meaning of food in our lives and a more
conscious experience of eating.
It's been another challenging month. The doctors'
discovered that my mother had breast cancer. Once the shock
of the initial diagnosis wore off, we had a sense of peace
that she would be fine. She had a lumpectomy and a couple
of lymph nodes removed, and breezed through the surgery.
She had very little pain, mainly discomfort, and never
needed pain medication, which surprised the nurses and
doctor. Fortunately, the cancer was small, low grade and
hadn't spread, which confirmed our sense that all would be
well. She will have to have a month of radiation, which
will begin in about a month.
*** Feature Article ***
* Learn To Say "No" *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Years ago, I got caught up in too many outside
activities. During this period, I was assistant secretary
of a community organization that planned a yearly
event, the secretary of a creative group that held a
yearly contest, a member of an artist's co-operative,
attended classes, acted in community theater, and
wrote publicity articles for the same community
theater.
I was so stressed that I got very little sleep and my
health began to suffer. Finally, I began backing out of
some of the responsibilities. For the first time in my
life, I had to tell people "No, I can't do it anymore."
The head of the community theater group pleaded
with me to continue writing articles, because "There's
no one else available." I stuck to my guns, even
though it was excruciatingly hard. And I learned that I
wasn't irreplaceable. Someone else did step in and
write the articles.
Learning when to say "no" is an important skill. For if
you don't establish what you can do and what you
choose not to do, the world will take advantage of
you. You have a right to say "no." In life, there are
always choices. When I wanted to be able to sleep
and be healthier, I had to cut some activities out of
my life. I then focused on a couple of activities that I
felt were most important to me. In another situation, a
person may decide they want to go hiking instead of
going to a family dinner with their parents. You
sometimes have to choose between what others want
from you and what it is that you really want to do.
When I realized that I was resenting my involvement
in so many organizations, I knew I had to let some go.
I wasn't doing myself any good. And even though
individually they were activities that I enjoyed, I
couldn't give them my best. In learning to say "no," I
stated to the Universe, and to the world, what I was
saying "yes" to. You can do the same. By saying "no"
to some things or people, you're saying "yes" to
yourself and to the things that you choose to
experience in your life.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
I know that I always have choices to make in my life.
Sometimes, I must choose between equally enjoyable
situations. In other cases, I must decide whether to
please myself or others. I now give myself permission
to say "no" to conditions in my life that drag me down
or that aren't of benefit to me at the present time. I
realize that as I say "no" to some circumstances that I
resent, I'm saying "yes" to myself and to what I really
want to experience.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: Can someone put a curse on another and manipulate
them through the power of their thoughts or words?
Answer: Someone can only manipulate another through curses
if the person being cursed believes it or is open to it.
Someone who knows that they are Divinely protected cannot
be harmed through any "magical" means. The power of thought
and prayer pervades us all, and we're all affected by this
power. If it's a negative thought from someone else, if
we're not solid in the belief of being protected, then
it can influence us or our life.
I had a friend who had a former boyfriend who tried to
manipulate her life through "psychic" means. At the time,
this friend was learning not to let others take advantage of
her. As she became stronger in saying "no" to others demeaning
her, the former boyfriend's influence became weaker and
weaker. That's what I meant by a person has to be open to
it. She was open to being manipulated and belittled, so the
former boyfriend's thought was able to affect her. When she
became stronger in her own worth, his thought no longer could
harm her.
If someone says something with great emotion to a person he
wishes to curse, the emotion will impress the subconscious
mind of the person. Think of how it feels when someone says
something nasty to you. Generally, you'll feel bad. Words
have power to hurt. But the stated curse can be reversed,
because it's all within the person's own subconscious. It
has very little to do with the person doing the cursing.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
You have a right to create and maintain boundaries for
yourself. They teach others that you choose to be treated
with value and respect. By setting boundaries, you're
accepting the responsibility for yourself and your well
being. Read The Necessity Of Boundaries.
Asoka Selvarajah, Ph.D, has written a thought provoking
article this month. Most people perceive "order" as being
a good thing in their lives, and "chaos" as being bad. Yet,
the recent scientific discoveries of Chaos Theory reveal
them to be two aspects of the same thing. The metaphysical
implications of these findings is that the only constant
in our lives is Change, and we must flow with it, or be
swept away by it. Read Chaos And Impermanence.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
One Bird, One Stone: 108 American Zen Stories
by Sean Murphy
I very much enjoyed this lovely book with the
remarkably American flavor. Unlike many other zen
storybooks I've read, this one addressed the daily
life, the dharma of the western soul.
In addition to the often piquant tales related by
3 generations of zen students and teachers, we
receive a fascinating history of it's evolution in
the United States. With quotes from such notables
as Alan Watts and Erich Fromm, we also are treated
to source material such as the quotations, "No matter
where you go, there you are," and "Don't just do
something, sit there".
If you enjoy the gentle humor and wisdom of the
masters as I do, you'll find this book to be a real
treat.
May was an exciting month. My partner, Jeff, had his
website chosen as one of the best writer's websites of 2002
by "Writer's Digest" magazine. He found out when someone
emailed him congratulating him on his success. The magazine
never contacted him to notify him of the honor. He was
surprised and thrilled. His website,
CreativeCauldron.com,
is for writers, artists, photographers and all creative
people.
*** Feature Article ***
* "Life Leaves Clues" *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Have you ever stayed in a relationship, a job, a
friendship, or a residence too long, hoping that things
would improve? I have done all of the above. Many
times, though, the situation never improves and
actually gets worse. Someone once said, "Life leaves
clues." Life drops hints that you've learned as much in
that experience as you can, and it's time to move on.
Feeling constricted, trapped or suffocated are signals
that you need to expand. And sometimes that means
leaving the circumstances causing these feelings.
Leaving a condition that is no longer serving you is
different from running from a difficult situation in an
attempt to avoid the mental/emotional cause of it.
When a person tries to escape from what is
uncomfortable, without addressing the reason they
attracted it in the first place, they tend to fall into a
similar situation or worse.
But when you've outgrown a situation, that situation
itself tries to push you out. It begins to leave you. You
might get fired, or not get the promotion you
expected. Or the relationship deteriorates. If you're
like me, and don't easily embrace change, you might
tend to hold tightly onto the familiar. Even though
you become more and more uncomfortable, and
circumstances are trying to push you out of the door,
you resist leaving.
I once had a friend with whom I no longer had
anything in common. Whenever we were together,
there was tension in the air. I wanted to continue the
relationship, hoping it would improve, even though
we'd grown in different directions. The tension
increased until she finally found an excuse to end the
friendship. In retrospect, I realized that the friendship
had actually been over for months. The clues for me
were the tension, and how she avoided talking to me.
For awhile, I was hurt. Now, years later, I'm grateful
to her. She recognized, whether consciously or
unconsciously, that we'd gone as far down that road
together as we could.
The challenge is to read the clues correctly. When
you're feeling like Life is pushing you out of a
situation that you're holding onto, it's time to make
the change. The Universe undoubtedly has something
better in Mind for you. But you have to be willing to
release the old before the new condition can manifest.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
Since I am always Divinely Guided, I correctly read
the clues that Life leaves for me. I recognize the signs
that tell me that it's time to move on. When I realize
that I've outgrown a situation, I gracefully release the
old conditions. I know that the Universe has
something wonderful in store for me. I bless the old
situation and gratefully accept the new.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: If one person is affirming something positive for
a friend, while someone else is speaking negatively to that
friend, will that affect the first person's affirmation?
Answer: If one person is affirming something for someone
else, the receiver has to accept the blessing of the
affirmation. For instance, a person can affirm health for
a loved one, but the loved one has to accept the health.
They have free choice as to whether to experience it or not.
Why would someone not want to have a better life? There are
many reasons for that.
And if someone else is affirming something negative, the
receiver will accept whatever they identify with the most.
Their dominant attitude will lean them in the direction of
the most familiar. For example, suppose you give a compliment
to someone. If they have a good self-image, they'll just say
"Thank you." However, if they lack self-esteem, most likely
they'll negate whatever the compliment was.
What a person can do to help is to include a statement in
their affirmation to give the person the free will to accept
the substance of the affirmation and protect them from
negativity. Something like "If any part of them is in
agreement with this affirmation, then they accept it, and
every level of their being is protected from outer
negative influences."
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
Trying to escape from a difficult situation without inner
work only attracts a worse one. Learn how to be free from
a challenging experience. Read
"From The Frying Pan Into
The Fire."
Guest writer, Robert Elias Najemy, lists some of the roles
we play, along with their core beliefs. Learning what
core beliefs we might have is the first step to
transforming them. Read Roles We Play and What We Believe Which Makes Us Play Them.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
After the Darkest Hour
by Kathleen A. Brehony, Ph.D.
What is the purpose of suffering? The Buddha went looking
for an answer to this one, spending years trying to work it
out. In this book, the author leads us to determine what
special meaning for us might be contained in the more
intense life lessons we encounter.
The painful emotions we each have to deal with as we go
through the maturing process have a great impact on the
type of person we ultimately become. Few of us will
actively seek out suffering. However, we can easily see
that those apparently "lucky" few who have been confronted
with relatively little opposition in their lives, are most
often shallow and characterless individuals, ones who
rarely, if ever, question the meaning of life.
In this book we are presented with the belief systems of
several religions and philosophies about suffering, and
we find that no matter what our situation may be, we are
not alone. We can also see that there is ultimately,
meaning to our experience, which can help us to find
closure and be able to move forward with our lives.
This is a powerful book, laying bare the anguish which
can sometimes epitomize the human condition while
showing us ways that we can lift ourselves out of it.
This issue marks the beginning of the third year of
publication for this newsletter. It would be nice to
celebrate with fireworks, but Arizona's drought has
prohibited them this year. There's too much danger of
sparking another forest fire, like the ones we've seen
recently. However, the summer monsoon flow, which brings
us summer rains, looks like it's beginning to crank up.
The rain will help to extinguish the wild fires we've had
raging in the southwest.
*** Feature Article ***
* Free Yourself From Your Mental Prison *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Do you want more prosperity, a better relationship,
more creativity, more harmony, a better job, better
health? That longing is the Universe's way of
impelling you to expand and grow, to experience
more freedom. So why haven't you achieved it? Your
old thought patterns, beliefs, ideas, and mental habits
restrict what you've accepted thus far. Sometimes, we
stick with the familiar, because we're afraid of what
changes the fulfillment of our desire might bring.
A person might stay in a dead end job because they're
afraid of the responsibilities of a better one. The
familiar is what we settle for. We may dream of
something greater, but when it comes down to
actually acting on it, we pull back, fearful that we'd be
asked to stretch beyond our capabilities. Therefore,
we remain in a self-created prison of inadequacy and
fear.
This situation has its equivalent in law enforcement
and the penitentiary system. Many times, a prisoner
would be released from prison, just to go out and
commit another crime so he could be put back into
familiar surroundings. He might rage at
circumstances, but his unconscious intention was to
be returned to jail. Craving the structure of being told
when to eat, sleep, dress, shower, exercise and more,
and not having to be responsible for his life; he
surrenders his freedom and his free choice for the
security of a cell.
What are you giving up to stay in your old familiar
situation? Where are you limiting your freedom?
What thoughts are restricting the fulfillment of your
desires? What is keeping you imprisoned in your
current situation? It's not the Universe. Ask yourself
if you have any fear about achieving your desires. Do
you have any issues with low self-worth, self-
confidence, self-esteem or self-acceptance? Are you
trying to avoid being visible or acknowledged? Are
you trying to avoid risk or responsibility?
All of these questions, and more, are issues to
investigate in attempting to discover what's keeping
you detained in your current situation. Simply
desiring to know the truth will begin to uncover it.
Fling open the doors of your self-created prison made
of outdated ideas, and accept all that the Universe has
to offer you.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
The Universe wants freedom and abundance of all
good for me. I become aware of what has kept me
from achieving my desires. Any outdated ideas that
have kept me imprisoned in old conditions now melt
away in the Light of Universal Harmony. I am
Divinely Guided in all my ways. I deserve all the best
Life has to offer, and have the capabilities to triumph.
The Universe has confidence in me, therefore I have
confidence in myself.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: Are there ways a person can unknowingly cancel
the positive affirmation that they're using?
Answer: There are many ways you can cancel out a positive
affirmation. One of the most basic is not having faith that
it will manifest. If you're afraid that the affirmation
won't create what you want, this will sap power from the
statement, and you'll manifest what you fear.
Having unconscious conflicts or blocks to the result will
also restrict the manifestation. These could be from past
experiences, childhood programming, other people's
conditioning, or any number of things. The best thing to
do is to examine what you really *feel* about the outcome.
Listen to any negating statements you might tell yourself,
and track them down to where they came from. Address them
with an affirmation that counters them.
One of the most common ways to negate an affirmation is
stating the affirmation, then during the day, stating its
opposite. For example, affirming "I'm prosperous" then
saying, "I don't have enough money for...."
One other way that comes to mind is giving power to someone
else to negate the affirmation. For example, if there are
negative people in your life, and they belittle you when
you say something positive. They can't actually take any
power away from you that you don't give them. But, in
this case, the most prudent thing to do is to keep your
positive goals to yourself.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
So many times, we take things personally when we shouldn't.
This month's article addresses the issue that when a person
verbally attacks you with no rational reason, it's not
about you. Read
Don't Take It Personally.
Our guest article,
Allow! is by Louise Morganti Kaelin.
Life is a school in which one lesson is to learn to be
tolerant of self and others and to allow ourselves to
simply be.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
Tarot for Self Discovery
by Nina Lee Braden
There are those who say that the images in a Tarot deck
represent archetypal figures from the collective
unconscious. In this book we are shown numerous
approaches to gleaning our own mythic journey through
life using these powerful images. Rarely have I seen
techniques described which get us so intimately in touch
with our personal imagery. In many cases and for multiple
situations, we are invited to scan through the deck and
find the card that best represents a person or situation
for us, one that most uniquely fits our inner perception.
There is a variety of self-discovery exercises and methods
for gaining new personal insights.
Undoubtedly, this is one of the most powerful treatises
on the therapeutic use of the tarot I've ever seen.
My Mother finished seven weeks (five days a week) of
radiation for breast cancer, and came through it very well.
Much of my summer has been concerned with getting her to
and from the radiation and doctor's appointments.
My partner, Jeff, and I went to the Jewel concert in
Phoenix and had a great time. That has been the high point
of my summer thus far.
*** Feature Article ***
* Conscious Consistency *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Staying consciously consistent with your principles
and with your affirmations isn't a simple proposition.
It's so much easier to just fall back into the old
programming or to react without thought. But to
spiritually evolve and develop, a person has to learn
to change their old thought and behavior patterns and
not allow outside forces to drag them back into
simply reacting from old fears.
There's a difference between reacting and responding
to a situation. Reaction is habitually "re-acting,"
which is acting the same way over and over, with no
conscious choice. Responding to a condition means
that you have evaluated the situation, assessed your
behavior options and consciously selected a course of
action that would be best to fulfill your principles and
whatever goal you might have.
Suppose someone criticizes you, and you feel
attacked. Instead of immediately reacting and going
on the defensive and/or attacking them back, you
might respond by detaching from the situation to
evaluate it. This isn't easy in the midst of emotional
warfare. But it's the way to be able to consciously
choose your next step. First, evaluate your feelings
and choose a course of action that is consistent with
your principles, while also supporting your inner self.
You can then state your case and let the person accept
or reject it.
Keeping your words and deeds consistent with your
affirmations also takes some conscious effort. For
instance, others in your world may bemoan the
recession and complain about the difficult economic
times. However, you're affirming that prosperity
flows to you no matter how the outer circumstances
might look. It may be difficult, with all that negativity
around, to avoid falling into the mental trap of a fear
of lack. But if you catch yourself every time you
begin to affirm poverty, turn it around and affirm
prosperity, you'll program your mind for prosperity.
Staying consistent isn't easy, and means living
consciously. But it's the only way to change your old
mental conditioning and your life. It's not easy to
remain this aware, but the rewards of spiritual growth
are enormous.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
I choose my principles and live according to my
principles. I remain conscious, evaluating every
situation, and choosing how to respond so that I stay
true to my inner self. Whenever I catch myself falling
into negative thinking or feeling, I remind myself of
the Truth that the Universe is everywhere present and
wants me to have all the good I deserve.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: Can I do an affirmation on behalf of someone else?
Answer: You can affirm on behalf of someone else, as long
as that person has asked for the affirmation. If they have
not asked for it, you might be interfering with their
choices and learning if you affirm something better for
them. I had a friend who affirmed that her husband would
refrain from drinking. It worked, he stopped, until she
realized that it wasn't his choice to do so. When she
stopped affirming that, he began drinking again. He had
other things he needed to learn before he could make the
decision himself to stop drinking.
It's hard when you see someone you love in distress, and
you want to help, but they've created the situation to
learn from. What you can do is affirm for their Highest
Good, or when you state a specific affirmation, include
a statement such as "if they're in mental agreement."
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* Instructions To Print Out My Articles *
Some people have emailed me saying that they like to print
out my articles and read them in the old fashioned way. But
if they print them out straight from the website, a few
letters of text on the right side of the page are cut off. I
didn't know what to do about the problem. But one of the
subscribers to this newsletter, Sindee Lee, figured out a
solution and shared it with me. Thank you so much, Sindee.
I'll be placing a link to these instructions on my article
index page.
To Print From Explorer:
Go to "File" at the top left of your browser window and
click. Select "Save As." When the window pops up and asks
how to save it, click on "Save As Type" and scroll down to
".txt." This will save the page as text. Note what the
name of the file will be, or change it to a name you
want. In the "Save In" window, browse to where you want to
save it. Click "Save." Open your word processor, click to
open your documents, and browse until you find the text
file. Open it, and you should have a page of plain text
that you can print.
To Print From Netscape: (One more step than Explorer)
Go to "File" at the top left of your browser window and
click. Select "Save As." When the window pops up and asks
how to save it, click on "Save As Type" and scroll down to
".txt." Then, in the window with the file name, change
".shtml" to ".txt." This will save the page as text. Note
what the name of the file will be, or change it to a name
you want. In the "Save In" window, browse to where you want
to save it. Click "Save." Open your word processor, click
to open your documents, and browse until you find the text
file. Open it, and you should have a page of plain text that
you can print.
* New Article *
Many years ago, I received valuable advice about prosperity
from a friend. When I remember to take it, abundance flows
in my life. The advice was to focus on the Universe as the
Source of abundance. When you do, unexpected channels open
through which money or supply can flow.
Read The Universe Is The Source Of Your Supply.
Guest author, Asoka Selvarajah, Ph.D., has written an article
which gives seven simple steps that a person can use to
readily access the Inner Genius/Higher Self within. These are
proven methods that are effective alone. However, if combined,
their power is incalculable for effecting change in a person's
life.
Read The 7 Secrets To Knowing Your Higher Self.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
Remarkable Healings:
A Psychiatrist Discovers Unsuspected Roots
of Mental and Physical Illness
by Shakuntala Modi, M.D.
Dr. Modi delivers a powerful turn in the traditional medical
treatment of mental illness. Documenting the statements of
patients, she discusses seriously the phenomena of
past-life trauma, disincarnate entities and demonic
possession.
Although Modi never claims to a belief in these and other
'supernatural' explanations for difficult and painful mental
diseases, she understands the need to give such
explanations the full respect and acknowledgement that
any physician of the soul would.
We are given the opportunity to explore amazing healings
that occur when an entity or demon is directly addressed
and has therapy of its own, administered to it. We are
allowed to share in the miraculous physical healings that
have occurred when past-life traumas are lifted.
Take a look at some possible spiritual explanations for
the suffering that many of us experience that may now
be alleviated through these enlightened techniques.
Consider the possibility that 21st century healing practices
could provide a cure to ills that were described to the
Church in the 15th century.
The stress of this year finally caught up with me. Stress
is when there has to be any adjustment in a person's
daily routine. After a year where my close friend/office
mate had surgery that resulted in his being brain injured,
my boyfriend being out of work for months, my mother
having breast cancer and going through radiation, and much
more, I caught a cold. A really nasty cold. I used all
the natural and vitamin remedies I know of, and only had
two days where I felt really awful. With as difficult as
this year has been, I feel I've done pretty well to stay
healthy until now.
Just as I was getting over the cold, our community had
problems with water. Like - none. It seems the pump burned
out. Fortunately, we have a second well that provided us
water, but people had to conserve (which they should be
doing anyway). Because of the drought in the southwest
part of the U.S., wells all over our area are going dry,
and the companies that service them are kept busy.
Fortunately, we got a new pump fairly quickly. But it was
a stress I really didn't need.
*** Feature Article ***
* Reprogram Your Negative Self-Chatter *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Have you ever monitored what you say to yourself?
Listened to the self-talk that chatters away without
your being aware of it? Automatic phrases, such as "I
can't do this," "I'm not worthy," "I can't handle this,"
"I can't afford it" and others. You may even find
yourself saying them to the people in your life. These
are beliefs that have been programmed into you, just
like into a computer. Suppose the boss asks you to
come into his office. Your first reaction may be "Uh,
Oh. I'm in trouble," even though he may want to
praise you.
These ideas come from your past, but they create a
self-fulfilling feedback loop in your subconscious.
Without your being aware of it, they provide
background noise in your life. Is it any wonder that
it's hard to make any changes? They echo the words
of parents, siblings, friends, teachers, anybody whose
opinion you ever accepted, whether it was true or not.
You were hypnotized into believing them, and you've
stayed true to the conditioning.
An affirmation is a statement that confirms what you
hold to be true, and though we generally use the term
for positive declarations, these statements can be
either positive or negative. When you tell yourself
over and over that you're not worthy, it convinces
your subconscious that this is what you want, and
your subconscious creates this reality.
The first step is to become aware of what you're
telling yourself. Write down these statements. Then
formulate a sentence that counters what you've been
believing all these years. Use it repetitively, because
that's how you were programmed in the first place. By
hearing the same or similar things over and over.
Remain conscious of the background noise of your
thoughts. And when the negative statement rises up, use
your new phrase. Be patient. That original idea has been
there a long time. It'll take time, consistence, and
persistence, but eventually you'll change the thought
to one that more truly reflects the Universe's loving
opinion of you.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
I monitor my self-talk and now become aware of what
I'm telling myself. I realize that these negative ideas
came from the past and have no relation to my present
life. I recognize my own worth and the authority of
my positive declarations. I am patient, consistent and
persistent in reprogramming my mind, for I know that
the changes are happening with every constructive
affirmation that I state.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: How long does it take for an affirmation to take
effect?
Answer: It depends on how long and how deeply engrained the
old conditioning is. If it's been there for a long time, or
it's a deeply held belief, it may take a few months of
constant affirmation to completely change it. You will
likely notice small improvements along the way. Think of it
like tacking a boat. You have to make small incremental
changes in the boat's course to turn it around. If you try
to change the course too fast from due west to due east,
then you risk ending up in the water. Keep track of the
improvements, and use them to encourage yourself.
I tell my clients that it takes thirty days to change a
habit (mental or physical), another thirty days to create
a new habit (which would be your new thought pattern), and
another thirty days to make that new habit familiar. Even
after that, you may find that times of stress may tempt
you back to the old way of thinking. That's normal,
because that way has been the most familiar to the
subconscious. Just start declaring your affirmation
again.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
The subconscious mind acts on false information as if it's
true. If you believe that you're stupid, then the
subconscious will accept that information and create
situations that confirm it. You can change the erroneous
ideas that you have, but it takes persistence.
Read
What False Ideas Do You Believe?.
The second article this month is by guest writer Myriam
Maytorena, M.Ed. The world reflects what you believe about
it. Stop trying to change the outer world, and instead
change your inner one. This article gives four simple
points to help change your inner world.
Read
Your Life Is A Mirror.
*** Recommended Reading ***
by
Jeri Noble
"Girls Will Be Girls"
by JoAnn Deak, Ph.D.
We're privileged to have Dr. Deak's experience in the
crucible of girlhood, an educator/psychologist in the
publicschool system, to inform us of the facts and
superstitions of young 'femaleness.'
We're presented with current neurological theories of the
chemical differences between boys and girls and given
numerous ways of accomodating these differences.
Examples are varied and there's a clear delineation of the
needs and cultural conditions that today's young woman is
presented with.
This is an important work for all parents, including the
parents of boys. I feel that we're aided in a more
conscious form of child-raising through the ideas laid out
here and may find that a more positive impact is made on
this future generation as a result of our implementing
them.
Well, autumn is here. As is usual for changing of seasons
in the desert southwest, we've dropped 10 degrees in a day
or so. Generally, it warms back up about 5 degrees for
a few weeks. But it's always a shock to go from the 80's to
the 60's with no steps in between. We've also begun to have
a little rain, which is greatly welcome. As I stated last
month, the drought has dried up wells around here. Our
community well is pumping 30-40% of capacity. Hopefully,
we'll have a wet winter.
*** Feature Article ***
* Re-learning How To Manifest After A Trauma *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Before 1990, I had opportunities fall into my lap.
When I needed information, or to be guided, it
showed up. But that year, I lost my innocence after a
disastrous relationship. My confidence, self-respect,
and self-worth were torn away, as was my natural
ability to manifest. After that, I couldn't manifest
anything without long and focused concentration on
what I desired. In my healing, I realized that I used to
manifest unconsciously. Now, I had to learn to do it
consciously.
Anyone who has had a major trauma may discover
things have changed. The ability to manifest may be
different, or self-awareness can be altered due to a
sense of vulnerability. Also, in any time of shock,
fear, stress, or danger, a person is in a state of
hypnosis. Whatever they tell themselves, or any
attitudes that get developed at that time, become
imprinted on the subconscious and work in the
background to become self-fulfilling prophecies.
The good news of all this is that the ideas that became
hypnotic commands can be reprogrammed. It's just a
matter of figuring out what negative beliefs became
imbedded and spending time to affirm the opposite.
I'd created concepts that life was against me, that
nothing good could happen, and that I had to struggle.
So guess what I manifested.
My confidence in Universal good was shattered, and
I've spent years reclaiming that confidence. Without a
feeling of assurance that the Universe is working for
you, it's hard to manifest what you want. I've had to
relearn old skills I used to take for granted. It's like
going through physical therapy to recover after
breaking a leg. At first, I had to consciously put one
foot in front of the other to remember how the
muscles worked.
Now, though I still tend to descend into fear now and
again, I have a working knowledge of what I need to
do to manifest. I've identified my next step as
completely regaining confidence that the Universe is
on my side, no matter what the appearances might be.
Since recognizing this, I've had opportunities fall into
my lap. I'm pursuing them to see where they lead.
When your mind changes, the whole world around
you changes.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
No matter what my life looks like, I know that the
Universe is on my side and wants the best for me. I
have confidence that the Universe supports me in all
of my goals and dreams. I am now aware of any false
ideas that I accepted during a period of stress. They
surface into my conscious mind. I recognize that they
are not valid and now reprogram my mind with ideas
of Truth. I deserve the best that Life has to offer.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: How do we discern if a situation is the result of
really deep subconscious negative thoughts/beliefs OR simply
the 'process' we are in as the Universe brings us that which
we have asked for?
Answer: Lots of things could be happening with it. If
you've been doing a lot of intense releasing and inner work,
your situation could be the subconscious clearing itself out.
It's a process called "chemicalization." When a person
transforms quickly, the subconscious tends to confront them
with much of their old garbage, all at one time. Imagine
having a garage full of old stuff that you decide to clean
out in a weekend. Lots of dust and chaos happens as you go
through the process.
Another thing that could be happening is that you're
challenging a deeply held belief. It could be anything
from "I deserve" to "Life flows easily." Again, the old
programming is unravelling and showing up very visibly in
your life. You can pretty much tell if it's either of these
if the situation is similar to others in your life, but
bigger. Or if the condition is completely opposite to what
you've been working on. For example, you've been affirming
"I deserve," and now people are coming out of the woodwork
telling you how worthless you are. Just keep up with your
inner work, and the outer will come into alignment.
Another reason this could be happening is that the Universe
knows what you want, and is trying to move you out of a
situation that you've outgrown and won't leave willingly.
So the Universe is making it so uncomfortable that you have
to leave for something better. No matter what, the
situation is a result of old subconscious beliefs, either
being released, fighting being changed, or having been
outgrown and you haven't let go of the outer experience
yet.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
This month's article is about a subject I've talked about
for years. It's about the "shameful" emotion - anger.
However, anger is neither good nor bad, it is simply energy.
You don't have to act on the feeling, but it is a signal
that something is wrong. Learning how to listen to the
message of anger, and then deciding what to do about it
transforms anger into a positive force for change.
Read
Anger As A Positive Force.
Go Within or Go Without: A Hands-On Guide to Healing Body, Mind, and Spirit
By Gloria D. Benish
I thoroughly enjoyed this charming account of the life of
a spiritual healer. An "ordinary" person in most respects,
she obviously is also a beautiful vessel for the healing
energy of Spirit. Within these pages you will learn the
lessons of hands-on healing, as well as gaining the
opportunity to participate in the wonderful energy which
this delightful person exudes.
It was a very near thing with this newsletter. It almost
didn't get done due to a family emergency. My Mother was
in the hospital 120 miles from home for two weeks and had
surgery. She's doing fine now, and is a nursing home for
physical rehabilitation, but it was a scary thing for
awhile. At the same time, I was moving my office from one
location to another. Because of the travel to and from the
hospital, I still don't have some things done for my move.
Minor things such as change of address forms to the post
office.
*** Feature Article ***
* Learn To Forgive Yourself *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
I've noticed that many times we can forgive others
before we forgive ourselves. We hold ourselves more
accountable than we do others. I remember going
through a bad time and asking myself "How could I
have attracted this?" It's fine to take responsibility for
our part in someone cheating us, leaving us, or
hurting us. That gives a starting point to heal. But
blaming ourselves is no better than blaming others for
their part in the situation. Blaming is shaming, a toxic
emotion. And it doesn't make things better, or help us
learn from the situation. It's a way of continuing to
punish ourselves for a challenging experience. As a
damaging emotion, it attracts more of the same.
When we don't forgive ourselves, we don't allow
ourselves to be benefited by Life. We may be holding
ourselves accountable to something that happened in
childhood. I discovered that I still felt guilty for
accidentally stepping on a classmate's hand in
kindergarten. She'd long forgotten the incident, but I
hadn't. As long as we stay angry at ourselves for old
experiences, we won't give ourselves permission to
prosper, succeed, or have whatever good we desire.
Is there something you're not forgiving yourself for?
As a starting point, explore if you're angry at yourself
for something, where you might feel shame, or what
you might be blaming yourself for. Those emotions
were ways for you to either survive as a child in an
unfriendly environment, or they're ways you're
punishing yourself for some situation that you've
already learned from.
Imagine the worst that could happen if you let it go. I
remember I was afraid of releasing my hurt because I
was afraid I might attract the same situation again if I
did. However, I'd learned from it and moved on in my
evolution. I finally had to cut myself some slack. I'd
done the best I could with the information I'd had at
the time. The same is true for you.
Release the self-condemnation and forgive yourself.
Some people feel anxiety at the thought of doing this.
That's because the unforgiveness has convinced them
that they don't deserve anything better. Bull hockey.
You are an individualized expression of the Infinite
and deserve all the best that Life has to offer.
When you forgive yourself, you grant yourself
permission to achieve your heart's desires. You
recognize your own worthiness. All the energy that's
been tied up in self-anger and self-hate can now be
channeled into beaming goodwill, love and blessings
towards you.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
The Universe has already forgiven me for everything
that has happened. I recognize that I've learned from
the situation and have put that knowledge to use in
my life. I now release any anger towards myself. I let
go of self-condemnation and shame, because I
deserve to value myself. I did the best I could with the
information I had. I forgive myself. By forgiving
myself, I now grant myself goodwill and blessings.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: If we are 100% responsible, then are miracles, as
some Spiritual paths suggest, only a natural out picturing
of Universal law when we really let go?
Answer: Miracles are the natural flow of the Universe. As
someone once said (paraphrased) "If you aren't experiencing
them, you're using your busy mind to create difficulties."
God isn't a white knight on a horse waiting to swoop down
and save you from yourself. I sometimes wish it were so.
When a person prays or affirms help or healing, they're
actually changing their own mind. Not God's. God is always
directing, guiding, inspiring, helping us. God is health,
and healing is the process of allowing God as health in.
When a person prays or affirms, they're acknowledging the
truth of the situation. As soon as they convince themselves
of it, then it manifests. It's simple, but not easy.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Billing Company *
I've changed from IBill as a billing company for my
electronic products to PayPal. When someone wishes to buy
from me, they have to sign up with PayPal, but it's free to
do so.
* New Article *
No new articles this month due to my family emergency.
*** Recommended Reading ***
"Getting Well Again"
by O. Carl Simonton, M.D., Stephanie Matthews-Simonton,
James Creighton
This is a must for anyone with cancer, or a chronic illness,
who wishes to participate in their healing. Dr. Simonton is
the pioneer who used imagery with cancer patients and
discovered just how powerful it can be. This book is a step
by step workbook of what to do if you have cancer. It
explains how the immune system works, and why cancer might
have developed. This book discusses how to participate in
your healing, the benefits of illness (also called
"secondary gains"), dealing with resentment, the
importance of setting goals, and much more. There are
specific exercises to follow to help you. I believe that
anyone that's ever experienced a chronic illness, or even
been close to someone who has, should read this book.
It's been a very busy month. I've been at my office for
several hours almost every weekend hanging certificates,
moving things around, and just generally getting settled.
As soon as we moved in, my officemate had a family
emergency, so she was gone for a week. We still have to hang
the pictures in the reception area.
I've also been training to become a facilitator for the our
county's Tobacco-Free Partnership, and certified as a
Fresh Start facilitator with the American Cancer Society.
What this means is that when the county sponsors classes to
help people stop smoking in my area that I'll be leading
them.
With settling into the office, going through training, and
visiting my Mom in the rehabilitation facility three times
a week, I've had very little time to spare to prepare for
the holidays. My Mom's doing very well, and should be coming
home in the next week or so. Even if there aren't many
decorations up, or presents under the tree, we're going
to have a wonderful Christmas and New Year's. I hope you
have a delightful, joyful, and peaceful holiday season as
well. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!
*** Feature Article ***
* The Creative Process *
by
Linda-Ann Stewart
Our educational system teaches us rational thinking,
to analyze data and come to a decision. But that's only
a small part of the thinking process. Any new
breakthroughs in science, product development,
marketing, or any other area where a problem needs
to be solved are found through inspirational insight.
The breakthroughs are not discovered only through
the detail work of the rational mind.
Society belittles creative thinking because it's so hard
to measure, but all geniuses or giants of business have
known how to think "outside the box." Einstein got
many of his ideas not while engaged in his research,
but while shaving. Because of society's attitude,
creative thinkers tend to hide their gifts and try to fit
their round peg into a square hole.
Creative insights come from a cooperation between
the rational/conscious mind, and the
intuitive/subconscious mind. They each have a role to
play, but if both of them aren't utilized, then no
inspiration can occur. The conscious mind's role is to
analyze data and come to a conclusion about the data,
even if it's "I can't go any further with this. I'll come
back to it later." At this point, the subconscious takes
over the process.
While the conscious mind is doing other things, the
subconscious begins to mull over the problem,
applying different concepts, using all of the
information in its storehouse, perceiving the whole
picture, and reformulating until a possible solution is
found. That's when inspiration flashes into the
conscious mind. Now it's the conscious mind's turn to
try it out and see if it works. If not, the whole process
begins again.
It's the same process a person goes through to
remember someone's name. They know the person,
and certain details, like where they met and their
profession. Then the seeker says "I'll think of it later,"
which is a command to the subconscious to find the
name. A few minutes later, the name pops into their
mind. If the conscious mind had continued to pick at
it, the name would never have surfaced.
Respecting and trusting the function of both the
conscious and subconscious is necessary to fully
utilize your mind. This is true of creativity, problem
solving, manifestation or any area of your life. So
cultivate trust in yourself and your mind and use all of
its potential to access the inspiration that's within you.
copyright (c) 2002 Linda Ann Stewart
*** Affirmation ***
I have all the wisdom, knowledge and abilities I need
within me to solve any challenge in my life. After I
analyze all the information, I let go of the problem.
My subconscious/creative mind knows what to do and
how to do it to find a perfect solution. I trust it to do
so. Everytime I think of the problem, I remind myself
that my creative mind is working on it.
*** Question and Answer ***
Question: I realize that we have to go through various
experiences to grow and learn a particular lesson and then
move on, but what happens if we do not know what the lesson
was supposed to be?
Answer: It doesn't matter if we consciously know what the
lesson is or not. Subconsciously we do, and so does our
Higher Mind. When you have a challenging experience, you do
the best you can with it. (Hopefully you've also been able
to stay in alignment with your principles.) Most of the
time, you'll have the same lesson appear over and over
again, in different aspects. It's to "help" you explore
different ways to deal with it, and/or to give you an
opportunity to master it. In the mastery of it, you may
get to experience all sorts of different sides of the
issue.
For instance, a person might have a lot of critical people
in his/her life. The challenge would be to deal with the
criticism in a way that would emotionally support
him/herself. But s/he might not know that. All s/he knows
is that people are always picking at him/her. Once s/he
begins to stand up for him/herself, the critical people
begin to either fade away or change their attitudes. One
of his/her issues would be to realize that the critics are
simply echoing what is already going on in his/her mind.
In AA, they say that if a partner of an alcoholic doesn't
heal what attracted the alcoholic in the first place, that
the partner will continue to attract alcoholics, even if
they leave the original one.
If you're wondering what the lesson could be, assess how
you felt during it. Think about other challenges in your
life. Is there anything similar about the feelings, or the
thoughts you had during it that you've had before? With
life lessons, there will always be some sort of pattern.
The situations may be different, but the feelings will
likely be the same.
Would you like to submit a question for me to answer in
the newsletter? If so write to me at:
linda-ann@cedarfire.com
*** New ***
* New Article *
This month's article is The True Role Of Your Inner Critic. Your inner critic criticizes you as an outdated
way to protect you. But its true purpose is to help you,
and it can be re-educated to do so in a way that is
currently beneficial.
The second article this month is
Using The Law Of Vibration To Manifest Your Vision by guest writer Asoka
Selvarajah, Ph.D. The whole universe is composed of
vibration. Hence, in order to manifest what we desire, it
is necessary to work within first, in order to ensure that
our inner vibration is at the same frequency as that which
we seek to attract.
*** Recommended Reading ***
"Higher Creativity: Liberating the Unconscious for
Breakthrough Insight"
by Willis Harman, Ph.D. and Howard Rheingold
This book describes the process of creativity, giving an
understanding of the different stages that a person's mind
goes through from the start of working through a problem
to the end result of a solution. The authors describe the
conditions that are necessary to access creativity, as well
as how the mind works through a challenge. They state that
the subconscious is just waiting for you to tell it what to
do, and it will follow your instructions. In this book,
there are many examples of people who have been able to
foster creativity in their lives. The only thing preventing
you from experiencing what the author's call "breakthrough
insight" is a disbelief in your own abilities in this area.
This book helps to dispel those concerns, and gives a
"toolkit" of ways to go about cultivating creativity in
your life. This book is for any person who has challenges
in their business, personal, or creative life.
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